Most of the women in the industry think they start on a level playing field. They don’t. Men have preferences. Some men prefer women who are tall, some short. Some men prefer blondes some brunettes. If you want to make money you need to overcome these preferences and make every man “prefer” you. One way to do this is to avoid things that cost you money. One of the worst body language moves you can make is touching a man on the shoulder. When we are in trouble as children our parents touch us on one shoulder. When we make a mistake as an adult our boss touches our shoulder. Please note that I said “one” shoulder. A one shoulder touch is psychologically associated with dominance. A two shoulder touch is associated with compliance and a strong emotional or mental connection. So what should a dancer do?
If you have been reading my previous articles you know how to approach a prospective client because you have observed his body language when you were on stage or from across the room. Armed with this information you already have an advantage over every other dancer. As you approach avoid the temptation to him on his shoulder. Instead run your finger tips from his shoulder to his finger tips. This move psychologically suggests you are yielding power and simultaneously planting the idea of him touching you. Remember you are selling a fantasy. Body language is the perfect way to help your client build his fantasy with you.
If you want to make more money you should learn to use body language. If you have any questions or would like to learn more feel free to contact me.